How do you make time for grief? Hey guys, this is Brad from ProbateResource.com. I’m going to do something a little different today. We’re not going to talk about real estate stuff at all. We’re going to talk about something that obviously everyone going through the probate process is dealing with, which is how do you deal with grief?
I’m dealing with grief right now. No one really knows this. I don’t mention this in any of my videos, but for the last 17 months, my youngest son, who was six years old, battled an aggressive grade four brain tumor and ultimately succumbed to that brain tumor last Tuesday and passed away. Passed away peacefully. No parent should ever have to deal with the death of their child. But sadly, my wife and I had to deal with that. So I’m processing kind of all this stuff at the same time.
We knew this was coming, we knew it was going to happen, but no matter how much you’re prepared for it, it still doesn’t prepare you enough. I’m dealing with the grief as we speak, and it manifests itself in so many different ways. I’ll be listening to a song and I’ll start crying because the song reminds me of this or that. Or we’re going through his stuff and we’re preparing for his memorial service, and time will heal that. But I think it’s important, and my wife and I are trying to do this to try to channel some of this grief in a positive way. You can still remember your loved ones and do it in a positive way. So we’re trying to focus on how we can take what he did and the legacy he left and what he would’ve wanted, and how do we funnel that in a positive manner?
So one of the ways we’re doing it is I’m starting a foundation to raise money to help find a cure for this terrible disease that he suffered from. That inflicts not a huge amount of children, but it does inflict children, and these families have to go through it. So how do we give that back? I’m happy there’s a positiveness to me thinking about how we can help people and can we make a difference? We tried and we did everything we could for him, but maybe the whole purpose of him being here was for a greater good. You have to think about that greater good and what are the positive things that you can take from the situation? What did you learn? What did that person teach you? How do you fulfill and carry on their legacy and help them or help other people get through life? What did you learn from that person and how can you help that person?
So maybe there were certain things that that person did that they would’ve done in a heartbeat. How do you continue that? I think the positiveness helps deal with the grief a little bit. It puts a positive spin on things. By no means should you just bottle all the grief inside because you should absolutely mourn and you should absolutely… I have my moments where I’ll cry and I get tears in my eyes. I think about my son and all the wonderful things that we did together, and that he’s not around anymore, and it’s not fair. But I have to remind myself that everything happens for a reason, and there’s a light at the end of the tunnel. There’s a positivity that comes out of everything. How do we focus on the positivity and not dwell on the negative?
I still would recommend to everyone, sit down with a therapist. Whether that’s a session, two sessions, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10 for the rest of your life. Whatever it takes, you need to talk to someone professional about this. I’m planning on doing that. Also, my wife and I are planning on sitting down and sort of doing some couples therapy together to deal with the grief together and how do we deal with that? So whatever you can do to talk about it is the best way to deal with it.
In fact, I made a video yesterday on a different channel that I have talking about that, and it helped lift me up to talk about this and get it off my chest. So if you’re dealing with grief and the death of a loved one, try to focus on the positive. Try to think about all of the good things and how you can channel that in a good way. I’ve got some more videos coming about dealing with all this grief, and I hope these videos help somebody out. The whole reason I make all of this is genuinely to help people out. Do I want to buy more houses? Yes, I do. But that’s sort of a side note to just helping people. I love to help people. So I hope this helps you out. Again, I’m Brad with Probateresource.com. Thanks for watching this video. Hope you have a great day. Bye-bye.
Dealing With GRIEF: How to Handle Loss and Suffering
This is Brad from ProbateResource.com.
Today, we’re going to talk about something different. We won’t be discussing real estate-related topics. Instead, we’ll talk about something that everyone going through the probate process faces – how to deal with grief. I’m currently dealing with grief myself, but no one knows about it. I never mentioned it in any of my videos. My youngest son, who was only six years old, battled an aggressive grade four brain tumor for 17 months and passed away peacefully last Tuesday. No parent should ever have to experience the death of their child, but unfortunately, my wife and I had to go through it. As a result, I’m processing all of this at the same time.
I’m dealing with the grief of losing someone dear to me. Despite knowing that it was inevitable, the pain is still difficult to bear. The grief manifests itself in various ways – sometimes I’ll hear a song and start crying because it reminds me of something related to the person I lost. Other times, I’ll go through their belongings, preparing for their memorial service, and feel overwhelmed with emotion. However, my wife and I are trying to channel this grief in a positive way. We want to remember our loved one in a positive light and continue their legacy.
One way we’re doing this is by starting a foundation to raise money for finding a cure for the disease our loved one suffered from. This disease affects children, and we want to help families who are going through the same thing. We’re focusing on the greater good and the positive things we can take from this situation. We want to learn from our loved one’s life and continue their legacy by helping others. We believe that the whole purpose of their life is for a greater good, and we want to fulfill that purpose by making a positive difference in the world.
Maybe there were some things that the person who is no longer with us did, that they would have done in a heartbeat. The question is, how do we continue that? I think that having a positive outlook on things can help deal with the grief a little bit. It puts a positive spin on things. But, by no means, should we just bottle all the grief inside. We should absolutely mourn and cry when we feel the need to. I still have moments where I cry and get tears in my eyes when I think about my son and all the wonderful things we did together. Knowing that he’s not around anymore and it’s not fair, it hurts. But I have to remind myself that everything happens for a reason and there’s a light at the end of the tunnel. There’s positivity that can come out of everything. How do we focus on that positivity and not dwell on the negative? I would recommend to everyone to sit down with a therapist. Whether it’s one session, two sessions, or ten sessions for the rest of your life, talking to a professional about your grief can be the best way to deal with it. I’m planning on doing that myself. Additionally, my wife and I are planning on sitting down for some couples therapy together to deal with our grief together. Whatever you can do to talk about it is the best way to handle it.
There were certain things that the person who is no longer with us did, which they would have done without hesitation. How do we keep that going? I believe that focusing on the positive helps us to deal with grief to some extent. It adds a positive spin to things. However, it’s important not to bottle up all the pain inside. It’s essential to mourn and grieve; I too have my moments when I cry and feel emotional. I think about my son and all the beautiful memories we have shared, and it’s heartbreaking that he’s not here anymore. But I have to remind myself that everything happens for a reason, and there is always a light at the end of the tunnel. We must focus on the positive aspects of the situation and not dwell on the negative ones.
I would highly recommend that everyone sit down and talk to a therapist, even if it’s just for one or two sessions, or if it takes 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10 sessions for the rest of your life. It’s important to speak with a professional about your feelings. I’m planning on doing that myself.
Additionally, my wife and I are planning on attending couples’ therapy together to help us deal with our grief and support each other. It’s important to talk about your feelings and seek help when you’re going through a difficult time. In fact, I made a video yesterday on a different channel about this topic, and it helped me to talk about my feelings and get them off my chest. So if you’re going through a similar situation, try to focus on the positive things and how you can channel your feelings in a positive way.
I have more videos about dealing with grief coming soon, and I hope they help someone out there. The reason I make these videos is to help others. Yes, I want to buy more houses, but helping people is my main goal. I love to help people. So I hope this video helps you out.
I’m Brad from Probateresource.com. Thanks for watching and have a great day.