Dealing With GRIEF: How to Handle Loss and Suffering
This is Brad from ProbateResource.com.
Today, we’re going to talk about something different. We won’t be discussing real estate-related topics. Instead, we’ll talk about something that everyone going through the probate process faces – how to deal with grief. I’m currently dealing with grief myself, but no one knows about it. I never mentioned it in any of my videos. My youngest son, who was only six years old, battled an aggressive grade four brain tumor for 17 months and passed away peacefully last Tuesday. No parent should ever have to experience the death of their child, but unfortunately, my wife and I had to go through it. As a result, I’m processing all of this at the same time.
I’m dealing with the grief of losing someone dear to me. Despite knowing that it was inevitable, the pain is still difficult to bear. The grief manifests itself in various ways – sometimes I’ll hear a song and start crying because it reminds me of something related to the person I lost. Other times, I’ll go through their belongings, preparing for their memorial service, and feel overwhelmed with emotion. However, my wife and I are trying to channel this grief in a positive way. We want to remember our loved one in a positive light and continue their legacy.
One way we’re doing this is by starting a foundation to raise money for finding a cure for the disease our loved one suffered from. This disease affects children, and we want to help families who are going through the same thing. We’re focusing on the greater good and the positive things we can take from this situation. We want to learn from our loved one’s life and continue their legacy by helping others. We believe that the whole purpose of their life is for a greater good, and we want to fulfill that purpose by making a positive difference in the world.
Maybe there were some things that the person who is no longer with us did, that they would have done in a heartbeat. The question is, how do we continue that? I think that having a positive outlook on things can help deal with the grief a little bit. It puts a positive spin on things. But, by no means, should we just bottle all the grief inside. We should absolutely mourn and cry when we feel the need to. I still have moments where I cry and get tears in my eyes when I think about my son and all the wonderful things we did together. Knowing that he’s not around anymore and it’s not fair, it hurts. But I have to remind myself that everything happens for a reason and there’s a light at the end of the tunnel. There’s positivity that can come out of everything. How do we focus on that positivity and not dwell on the negative? I would recommend to everyone to sit down with a therapist. Whether it’s one session, two sessions, or ten sessions for the rest of your life, talking to a professional about your grief can be the best way to deal with it. I’m planning on doing that myself. Additionally, my wife and I are planning on sitting down for some couples therapy together to deal with our grief together. Whatever you can do to talk about it is the best way to handle it.
There were certain things that the person who is no longer with us did, which they would have done without hesitation. How do we keep that going? I believe that focusing on the positive helps us to deal with grief to some extent. It adds a positive spin to things. However, it’s important not to bottle up all the pain inside. It’s essential to mourn and grieve; I too have my moments when I cry and feel emotional. I think about my son and all the beautiful memories we have shared, and it’s heartbreaking that he’s not here anymore. But I have to remind myself that everything happens for a reason, and there is always a light at the end of the tunnel. We must focus on the positive aspects of the situation and not dwell on the negative ones.
I would highly recommend that everyone sit down and talk to a therapist, even if it’s just for one or two sessions, or if it takes 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10 sessions for the rest of your life. It’s important to speak with a professional about your feelings. I’m planning on doing that myself.
Additionally, my wife and I are planning on attending couples’ therapy together to help us deal with our grief and support each other. It’s important to talk about your feelings and seek help when you’re going through a difficult time. In fact, I made a video yesterday on a different channel about this topic, and it helped me to talk about my feelings and get them off my chest. So if you’re going through a similar situation, try to focus on the positive things and how you can channel your feelings in a positive way.
I have more videos about dealing with grief coming soon, and I hope they help someone out there. The reason I make these videos is to help others. Yes, I want to buy more houses, but helping people is my main goal. I love to help people. So I hope this video helps you out.
I’m Brad from Probateresource.com. Thanks for watching and have a great day.